tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8541807855306104493.post8793135760026684233..comments2023-07-29T06:53:57.381-07:00Comments on The Interdependent Life: Strength of HeartJo-Ann Svenssonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03259745143188204566noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8541807855306104493.post-56965454509027763352012-05-21T19:44:01.136-07:002012-05-21T19:44:01.136-07:00Thank you Carla, Amy. You pose some interesting th...Thank you Carla, Amy. You pose some interesting thoughts there, Amy, especially, when you talk of boundaries. Basically, how to be open-hearted but not codependent. I hear you and I believe, as you write, that a shield does not have to be unkind or without compassion. It is more, as you imply, a knowledge of what is mine and what is theirs. I am reminded of something David Palladin wrote to describe "Warriers of Compassion". He says: "...They experience their wounds as gifts, as opportunities. To be truly brave is to lay down all the weapons and stand naked in the midst of the foe. To hear the foe crying and change those tears to laughter. The Shamans know that the worunds are not their but the world's. The pains are not theirs but Mother Earth's. The tears are really the purifying rain."<br /><br />And finally, I think it is possible to say open-hearted with ever single interaction. I am not saying I will achieve this but it is certainly a standard to work towards.Jo-Ann Svenssonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03259745143188204566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8541807855306104493.post-51543640947305473772012-05-21T14:16:39.846-07:002012-05-21T14:16:39.846-07:00In a world where burnout is common in the service ...In a world where burnout is common in the service industry, people find little reluctance to abuse those who stand behind a counter, and customer service can be withheld unwittingly,I really appreciate your words Jo-Ann.<br />I think for me it is around choice within my own self-care. And yes, that can lead to being sometimes guarded and sometimes missing opportunity for connection. I personally, can only maintain this kind of openness for periods of time and then it has the potential to become taxing to my system, then a shield is necessary for taking care of me. The shield does not necessarily have to be unkind, disconnected or even uncompassionate, just an awareness of where my boundaries are and not taking whatever the complaint is personally. Most people who are, shall I say miserable, really just want to be heard and contacting their concern, no matter how trivial, often opens their heart in response...and then there are those who are miserable just to be miserable and there is nothing you can do.<br /><br />I admire your awareness and perseverance in staying open-hearted... I am wondering if it is possible with every single interaction or just a standard to work toward?Amy Hansonhttps://amyhansonbodywork.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8541807855306104493.post-30937521604116665572012-05-21T08:20:11.365-07:002012-05-21T08:20:11.365-07:00Beautiful Jo-Ann....It does take courage to stay o...Beautiful Jo-Ann....It does take courage to stay open...xoxoCarlahttp://www.unbridled-potential.comnoreply@blogger.com